Hello and welcome to my little corner of the internet!

My name is Krystal and I am married to my best friend, who happens to be awesome and also happens to be a campus minister. I am a full time stay- at- home mom to our 3-year- old daughter Riley, and our 7-month-old son Copeland.  We lost our second child before ever getting to meet him (I miss him and long for him every day).  Our life together is happy and sad.  It is a sometimes messy, often beautiful adventure.

I am an INFP on the Myers-Briggs – a total dreamer with my head in the clouds who pays very little attention to detail.  I’m a type “B” personality all the way.  I love just going with the flow, taking each day as it comes (with a great big cup of coffee to kick it off and a nice glass of wine to wrap it up).  I am thankful that my husband is a type “A” thinker who brings me back to reality a little bit ;-).

I have a passion for motherhood and being super vulnerable.  My name does mean “transparent,” after all.  My favorite people are the ones who are willing to bear the depths of their souls and are not afraid of the messy depths of my own.  And people who love Chipotle, of course.

Typing on a fresh white screen of my blog helps me to sort through some of the things I am mentally processing, keep a record of life events, laugh at myself, and invite others along for the ride. I have loved connecting with some of my readers and following their blogs as well.

I once had a blog post go viral which was such a crazy experience for me. That may have been how you found my blog! That post was about giving grace to the iPhone mom and you can find it here.

If you are new to my blog, here are a few of my other favorite posts to start with:
An Open Letter to My Daughter: I am Enthralled
Advice to My 21 Year Old Self
When the Christian Sayings Are Just Not Helpful
Marriage is

If you or someone you know are going through a miscarriage, here are my posts on processing our loss:

Processing the Physical Part of Miscarriage
The Pep Talk
Marks of My Son
The Freedom to Fall Apart
My Husband’s Processing of our Loss
The Communal Dance of Joy and Mourning

If you would like to contact me, you can do so at growinginashrinkingculture@gmail.com.  I love to hear from my readers!

Thanks for stopping by :).

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holding C

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Copyright CarolynMarie Photography 2015

C in the pool

gorgeous Riley

Jordan and I

K and the kids

R and C

7 thoughts on “About

  1. Thank you so much for this post. I’m a SAHM and I try to be present each day with my daughter, but I know for sure that I’m a better mother and a happier human being when I steal even a few minutes for myself – and yes, often that involves checking my phone. Let’s stop suffocating mothers with unrealistic ideals of ‘perfection’ and start encouraging their super-human efforts to parent well.

    • LOL, I’m here to cheat as well. I had wanted to respond to the blog author’s response to my working mom vs. SAHM comment. Thank you for clarifying what you meant and for taking the time to reach out to me. That meant a lot 🙂

    • Thanks for sharing that! I’ve actually had a few different commenters refer me to her blog, so she is obviously touching lives and spreading much needed encouragement :). I just started reading some of her dear mom letters, how refreshing! Thanks!

  2. I too am going to cheat on this blog, as a dad who has seen how hard my wife works at taking care of our kids, making them thoughtful and amazing, and btw also takes care of the home, thank God she has an iPhone to connect to someone, to text her friends, or me, or her dad to make her laugh, or cry, or hear about something new and unexpected. She sends me great photos of the kids from the same phone. Love the post!

  3. I love this. What a great post, that truly makes us moms feel so much better! I just shared to my FB page Mom Community. facebook/goodacorn. I couldn’t find a FB or Twitter link to tag you, but happy to add one if you message my page. I love your blog!

  4. Thank you for your post about the iPhone mom. I am a single mom of my 10 yo girl and 6 yo boy. When my husband died suddenly I went into survival mode and did a ton of ‘plugging in’ just to get through the day. As we were learning to cope these past three years I’ve dealt with a lot of mom guilt (self and others inflicted). Your post was such an encouragement! A more seasoned mom just told me the same thing last night at Bible study. Thanks again for speaking truth!

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