Marriage is…

This morning I woke up to this note that my husband had left for me on the ipad:


So when Riley went down for her morning nap, I pulled out my bible, read and journaled through Colossians 1.


An hour later, Jordan came home with a pumpkin spice late for me (hence the “don’t drink a 2nd cup of coffee”), to my absolute delight :).


We sat together for a little bit, drinking our coffee and talking about the things we had both learned in Colossians 1 this morning.

Sounds dreamy, doesn’t it? It was. But to be honest, this great morning in marriage followed what was a difficult day in marriage (yesterday).

Isn’t that a glimpse of what marriage is sometimes? A really tough day, followed by a really beautiful one? At times it may be many days of tough before the beautiful follows (or vice versa), but being married to another person is bound to include many of both.

Along that line of thought, I figured I would share a list of things that I have discovered about marriage in my young, toddler years of it (2 and a couple of months to be exact):

Marriage is… being a part of something bigger than yourself.
Marriage is… awesome. But it’s not always awesome.
Marriage is… not awful. But sometimes it is awfully hard.
Marriage is… falling short. But also making a shorter fall for the other person.
Marriage is… learning from the wisdom of those older who have gone before you. But sometimes it is falling on your butt and learning the hard way.
Marriage is… a thoughtful act. But sometimes it is acting thoughtless.
Marriage is… non-communicated expectations, miscommunicated intentions, and unmet desires.
It is also giving grace. Over. And over. And over again.
Marriage is… accepting grace offered to you. Over. And over. And over again.
Marriage is… feeling frustrated that your spouse hasn’t pursued you well.
Marriage is… facing your own hypocrisy and realizing that you haven’t pursued your spouse well either.
Marriage is… taking trips, going on dates, and full of fun!
Marriage is… folding the laundry, paying the bills, and full of monotony.
Marriage is… not going to solve your problems. It will, however, reveal problems that need solving.
Marriage is… both giving and receiving. But it works better when both people are more concerned with giving than receiving.
Marriage is… occasionally soft blankets when you sleep in with the smell of warm breakfast already made. But it is most often a crying baby, lack of sleep, and waking up to the realization that you are out of coffee, creamer or filters.
Marriage is… hard conversations, tension, hurt and tears. It is also holding, kissing, laughter and making love.
Marriage is… completely dependent on prayer. It is also completely independent from self.
Marriage is… not just two people. But the community that surrounds you with truth, support, and prayer.
Marriage is… giving all of yourself. And knowing that you will not be abandoned or rejected.
Marriage is… accepting the whole of another person. And never abandoning or rejecting them.
Marriage is… total acceptance and freedom.
Marriage is… taking on another’s fear and pain. It is also sharing their joy, dreams, hope, and future.
Marriage is…forever.
Marriage is… God’s idea. It is the example He chose to demonstrate the relationship between Christ and the church.
Marriage is… a mystery.

I saw this today on a friend’s blog, and thought it was the most perfect picture of marriage:



To my Groom, Jordan. Here’s to many more years of tough, beautiful, wonderful, fun monotony! May we look back in the end and find that we were one tree and not two.



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