Advice to my 21 Year Old Self

Sometimes I wish that we really could write letters to our younger selves. There is so much I would love to say to younger Krystal. But then again, I’m not sure she would listen. Even to her older self. She tended tends to be a bit stubborn. Nevertheless, every now and then I like to think about some of the things that I would say to my younger self now that hindsight is 20/20. I thought it would be fun to share some of the things I would say to my 21 year old self, when I was a junior at Elon University:

-Spend time with sorority sisters that you don’t know as well. Some of them will become your closest friends. That’s right, your sigma kappa ladies will be in your life far past your 4 years at Elon. Some that you didn’t know as well now will one day become your biggest support through pregnancy and motherhood.

-STOP thinking that an “attractive, godly man” is the answer to your problems. There are many attractive, godly men out there (even though it may not seem like it at times), and you will end up with one of them when you’re 24. Wonderful as he is, he will not be the answer to your problems. As a matter of fact, the issues you have now will still be issues when you’re married. So CHILL OUT. Marriage is not everything. Finding a guy does not solve everything. Put that journal down if you’re just going to journal about guys you have a crush on, or finding your “future husband.” There are so many other more important ponderings for those journal pages. Soak up every minute with your girlfriends, because you are really going to miss those days one day.

-STOP using so much self tanner. I mean, use a little bit. But not to the extreme that you are. 2 shades of light faux glow is way better than 20 shades of orange. Trust me. You’ll thank me one day when you look back through college pics.

-You are thin girlfriend. I know you don’t think you are but trust me, you are LITTLE! Take a few days (or weeks) off from the gym and just enjoy life. Please, I beg you, stop being so wrapped up in your appearance. Please stop comparing yourself to other Elon ladies. You are beautiful and you look exactly how you’re supposed to. Elon does not need another tiny, toned, tanned, trendy, blue eyed beach blonde. And you don’t need the stress that it’s causing you. Looking like everyone else or trying too hard is not going to get you anything worthy in life that you do not already have.

-You know how you pick on guys when you’re nervous around them, or become super sarcastic and snarky when you’re uncomfortable in social situations? Actually, you may not know that you do that, but you do. And it pushes people away and makes them feel shut down. It’s ok to be snarky and sarcastic. Just don’t do it at other people’s expense. You will be much more approachable and it will save you some regret later in life.

-Eat as many Octagon wraps as possible! Especially the BLTT ones. Well actually, you pretty much already do. But keep that up! You will only get to enjoy them for 4 years and then you will really miss them and one day you will decide to go back to Elon to enjoy one for lunch, and find out that they no longer exist :(.

-You are smart. Believe that about yourself. And flex that muscle a bit more. Put a little more effort into enjoying learning. You have the opportunity to take some really great classes. Education is important and you will continue to value it more the older you get.

-Stop using your Pheonix cash at A+ Tans. That is dumb. Use it up at the restaurants or hair salons that accept it!

-Write down the funny stuff that happened when you worked at Elon’s campus security. You’ll wish you could remember it one day!

-Stop spending so much money on clothes and actually save some of it. It will really come in handy when you’re struggling to pay bills your first couple of years out of college or when those student loans hit you like a ton of bricks.

-There will be a situation when you are asked in front of a whole class to stand on one side of the room if you believe there is only 1 way to heaven and on the other side if you believe there are many ways. DON’T do what everyone else does just because you’re scared to be the only one to believe the “close minded” thing. You will regret this for the rest of your life. Oh and don’t judge Peter in the gospels when he denies Jesus 3 times. You were him.

-Thank Allison Leslie every single day for being your Greek IV staff worker! You will be a Greek IV staff worker one day, and you’ll realize that she works a lot harder then you ever knew. You’re not as easy of a student as you think you are. And she does A LOT for you. She teaches you things that will shape you for the rest of your life. Show her your appreciation. And when she announces that she is leaving staff after your senior year? Take the reins in throwing her a farewell party.

-Listen to sermons by Steve Brown. You don’t know who he is, but the things he teaches will save you a lot of legalistic exhaustion!


^my 21 year old self pondering life. (Actually I’m pondering the DC metro map, but whatever)


^my college roommate and I digging “A+ Tans” coupons out of the trash can

What would you tell your 21 year old self?


3 thoughts on “Advice to my 21 Year Old Self

  1. This made me smile! I knew your 21 year old self and you were/are a pretty amazing woman! You were the one who gave me advice about waiting for the ONE for marriage and not settling for less. You set the bar high for the rest of us for waiting for what God has in store for us. You were a pretty amazing 21 year old and continue to be an amazing woman/mother. I love your blogs and voice. 🙂

  2. So maybe your 21 year old self can not read this, but know that other 21 year olds are and this was exactly what they needed to hear. Thanks for sharing.

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